Not the number of shares the video of your proposal/wedding dance received.
There are so many videos popping up of first dances at weddings I wonder if guests are disappointed when a slow dance stays a slow dance and does not suddenly turn into a choreographed number.
Today on Facebook another one appeared. A marriage proposal. Friends and family dancing? to a song that girlfriend was (forced) to listen to on headphones. Although she seemed happy by all this literal song and dance I did not feel like watching over 5 minutes of You Tube one-upmanship. They do not make me sentimental or weak at the knees. Instead I feel sad that all this effort is put into the production but not into the marriage itself. At the end of the day when it is just the two of you, do you give her the same attention as you did for the proposal; does she respond with a smile on her face? Or are you searching social media for the next big idea or hoping yours will be the next trend setter.
And what about her? How did she feel about this public declaration; is this something she would have loved or was she cringing inside but you were too wrapped up in the production to truly think about what your love would really want. There is a reason why marriage proposals on Jumbotrons are turned down. And now the song and dance are over, real life has set in, is she expecting a big production for upcoming events or is she dreading that there will be further You Tube moments.
This is sounding cynical, but with the high divorce rate it seems that more effort is put into the proposal than keeping the marriage alive.
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